Slapped wrist...
Hmmm. Youch. Still hurting....
Am I the only one to have done this (go on, lie, make me feel better, say 'no').
You've been lurking aroound a blog for a while, some questions come into your mind. The questions aren't to do with the blog exactly, but they are related to the core of the blog subject. You look for an email adddress and don't see it (because, as it happens, you didn't trawl far enough past the pics in the side bar, doh!).
So, you decide to put a question in a comments box anyway. You think you have made it clear that you understand that the topic is a little delicate. You say that you are interested in different perspectives, you note that maybe the blogger might not want to engage with it on their blog. You think that if it isn't, they'll tell you.
Boy, she did!
I guess from the response that my question touched a raw nerve, guess I know where she stands on the issue I was querying. But y'know, I feel like I just had my bare legs slapped, and I think that was an over-reaction. As I said in my response to her response (!)'netiquette' is a tricky thing, and sometimes I slip up a little. All I can say is, cut us poor benighted souls a little slack - it's nice to be nice.
Labels: Netiquette
posted by Twelfthknit at 5:53 pm
12 Comments:
Ohh, you are *certainly* not the only person to have done that - or something similar. And that's no lie! And then, she may have slapped back harder than she thought, too - though by the sounds of it, she was pretty clear what she was 'saying'. BTW, please do email me privately with your postal address; you won my contest way back when in July(!) and I'd like to finally post your prize... (at http://veryotterly.blogspot.com/2006_07_01_archive.html if you've no longer any idea what I'm talking about; its' been a while!)
Imagine the bad karma she collected. Nasty of me, but gratifying...
Ouch, it is a tough thing, getting the right tone with words.
Hey India, just saw your comment on my blog and am responding here as well in case you don't see my response there. I did an extra cable twist in the body of the sweater than should be there for the small size as I was worried it would be too short otherwise - maybe why there's more twists than in your version? And poor you having to frog - always painful.
One of the hazards of blogging I think, for both the bloggers and the readers standpoint. For the blogger it must be hard to know where to draw the line both in what is posted and personal info published - and for the reader who over time often thinks they have gotten to know the blogger to just keep it as an impersonal relationship - although its hard too from that standpoint as sometimes it does feel as though we are reading personal diaries and can't help but feel involved somehow. Some bloggers in my opinion too get a little big for their boots - especially if they get a huge following. It must almost be like fan mail - welcome for the buzz but intrusive at the same time. Some I have noticed end up quitting at that stage.
Just my thoughts on it all from a non blogger...
Hi Carol.
I know what you mean, it is always a bit difficult to draw the line -I would be very hestitant about asking a blogger a personal question, and certainly wouldn't do it in a comments box.
I had basically said on a food blog that I had been surprised to recently learn about the American meatpacking industry (not that I am saying that ours is a shining example) and I wondered what her thoughts were, and where did she buy her meat from. I kind of thought that while she might not want to get into a public debate, it was relevant to her blog, and maybe we could have had a discussion about it. I guess from the reaction that this person isn't too picky about the provenance of her food and is defensive about that.
At the end of the day I just removed her from my blogroll - I don't want to visit a blog where the blogger is just damn rude - a polite 'I'd rather not discuss it' was all that had been necessary.
Oh well!
India
Interesting questions and thoughts re the meat packing industry. Are the 2 countrys so very different? Got me thinking somewhat - is it animal welfare, grazing and clearcutting issues, waste issues ie methane gas, employee treatment issues, huge amount of meat consumed here in the US? Interesting thoughts - but not the time and place here to discuss. But you have got me thinking - not that I know really anything about such industries or where the meat comes from that I buy in the store (it doesn't say!). Anyway email if you want to chat - or try and find out about things over the pond here. My email is c and then my surname which is glasstone at hotmail dot com (all in lowercase).
Hey there, I'm your Knitterly Letter Swap Pal. Just wanted to let you know that your letter will be a bit delayed...sorry! Will get it out ASAP!!!!
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Virtual hugs. I'm so glad I've only met lovely bloggers (so far). I obviously move in the right blog circles!
hmmm, it hasn't happened to me yet...i better tread lightly with the comments
Oh dear, netiquette is a tricky thing , I often worry that my rather black sense of humour is misunderstood and often have to rewrite comments before posting. I remember many years ago when email first arrived in the workplace and I hit "send" rather too quickly on something without properly checking just who all was on that mailing list.......
Re: comment on Heather's wrapping paper, it reminds me of a Kaffe Fassett fabric, I think it is called mosaic, check it out, may be what your are looking for.
The blogging world is getting a little crazy these days with popular blogists being like minor celebrities...I think a lot of people are feeling defensive because, apparently, there has been a rash of nastiness going around the blog world of late.
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